Pilatus, I can completely relate to you. I say the exact same things to myself & constantly judge & compare myself to my peers. It is a horrible trap.

I do try to replace the -ve self-talk w/ a +ve statement. I know it's a lie, but I do it anyway, b/c I hear that the more you say it, your brain will eventually accept it & believe it. However, I always fail here. The -ve thougts always prevail; they always outweigh the +ve's -- no matter how hard I try........it's so frustrating!

For how long & how often do you have to do this?

It's SOOOO hard...... ** SIGH **