During therapy I gave my T a couple of simple gifts. He accepted them graciously.

More recently, well post therapy, in an e-mail, he apologized for something. I didn't feel he had anything to apologize for, and I wrote back that there were no expectations to meet, nor score kept. That's how I felt about the gifts I had given him so many years before: they were given as tangible expressions of my feelings. The giving was a self-contained act which simply didn't involve any further response or expectation.