society tends to condone the exploitation of animals - but that doesn't mean that it is right (morality comes apart from what society does or does not condone).

it might be the case as an empirical matter of fact that only girls who disrespect themselves sleep with a guy on a first date... but then again, it might not.

i guess it is up to every individual to find out what is right for them.

it is hard with the mixed messages about what is right for people, or the authoritarian messages about what is right for everyone. it can be hard to find out what is right for you. i guess that generally speaking learning involves a trial and error process. i don't see why this should be any different (unless one opts out of the learning and goes with the brute stipulation of what is right for everyone).