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Originally Posted by kala83
I am starting to notice I come off rude, selfish and emtionally numb a lot of the time. And I really don't aim to....I feel poorly every time I do but it seems like it has just become a natural thing for me to do...
what worse is I do this more around my mother then anyone else...and it makes me feel like ****.
How do I not notice I am being rude...how do I act so selfish and poorly around others and not get it until its literally pointed out to me. What can I do stop being this way.
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You said in the other post that you see the same traits in your mother. Well then if this is happening mostly around her then why would it be any different. The defense mode comes on when your around someone like that. You have probably taken on the same role as you were taught. What was your childhood like? To be any different a better understanding is needed first and foremost for yourself.