Curious about others thoughts on the level of transparency in a marriage. Would you think anything of reading your souses text messages?

I am of the mind that if my wife didn't care if I read her text, then I probably wouldn't care to read them but if she was particularly adverse to me reading them then I would absolutely want to see them. Further, if I walked in on my wife reading my text or email, I wouldn't give to flips about it. I can't imagine I would even ask why they were reading them, other than to see if they just like being bored!

Do you ever look at your spouses text? Do you/would you care if they read yours?

Particularly, if you knew that your spouse regularly text with one or more of their opposite sex friends, would you want to see what they talk about?

I tend to think that texting with opposite sex friend is fine, as long as there is never any exchanges that you wouldn't want your spouse to see. If you are sending text that you would not want your spouse to see...well that's inappropriate, and potentially boarders on cheating.

Curious to see others thoughts.