Well to be fair, T says that my love language is "receiving gifts" which, when you read about it also includes giving.

In six months, i've only given T two/three things - a card for Christmas, and some candy just because I thought she'd like it and if you want to count it, a cheerful email. She thanked me for both (all) and honestly, I appreciate the thanks but just seeing her seem to genuinely appreciate them was gift enough for me. I love to make people happy/smile and the thought of getting something back rarely, if ever crosses my mind.

However, she has brought some of her books for me to borrow (relative to what we're discussing) so that's a nice gift (imo) on her part because it is not something she has to do.

I don't think that gifts should be directly linked to holidays and events, or as a reciprocal action. A gift simply communicates expression from the heart.