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Old Feb 04, 2014, 07:22 PM
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Originally Posted by sweepy62 View Post
growly, I was wondering, if all your wanting is for lcm to tell you " i love you", will those words make you feel better ( sorry my question mark does not work) lets say she calls you or in person she says growly, I love you too. Will you feel better and will that make you grow, and lessen the abandonment issues, or will you want more than that, I am wondering, or are you wanting the whole mom package deal.

If you just want her to say I love you back with the understanding she cant be a real mom but that she offers you nurturing and genuine care, thats fair and healthy.

I guess if you want the Mom package deal, I guess maybe thats why she does not tell you she loves you, either way, I wish you lots of luck with your struggles.

I know why she won't say it. One of my biggest issues is around that phrase. I can't accept it. When I hear it, I always assume it is flippant and insincere. That is why she won't say it. She said it twice in passing and I didn't believe her. I'm not able to understand or accept it and if she said it in a more serious context, I still wouldn't be able to believe that anyone could love me as much or even to a comparable amount as much as I love them.
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