.....Posting on this forum have something in common. We were "betrayed" by someone who was supposed to love us. Someone who was "sick" themselves in some way or another. I think all of us would like to go back in time and change the bad things that happened to us. Unfortunately for all of us, that is not possible. We have to move forward and endure the pain. I have committed to understanding that "they" are the ones with the problems. I just got in the way. I didn't say to forgive, just to realize that they are the ones who are ill. I can't change the things that happened to me in the past. None of us can. I believe, however, that I must move forward and be productive for my marriage and the ones who do love me. That way of thinking has helped me tremendously. Maybe it can help some of you as well.