I am saying that there is also the notion that the therapist said don't pay her and one can accept that and go on.
If one wants to give to charity, I think that is great. Giving to charity is not the part I am saying I think is the sticking point.
I just think one should not do it in the name of the therapist.
If I told someone I did not want payment for something, I would not feel touched or happy or honored etc if they gave the payment to a charity in my name. I would feel irritation that the person did not hear or respect me when I said no.
Just another perspective on it.