He is loving in that he shows them affection and spends twice as much time with them than he did a few years back...when he was busy spending time with someone else. But all that aside he could be better and that is one of the things that frustrates me. The lack of backup I receive enforcing limits is a problem. But this is someone who used to call my cell irate if I left the kids with hint if I went to the store and was gone for more than 30 minutes. I can only accept what he is capable of and I see his behavior more in line with being a lousy husband. He's old fashioned so his ways are outdated. I guess the good thing is I no longer allow as much of this behavior as I did then.