At first I'm sorry for not answering the last day. I just couldn't find the forum :/
Embarrassing.
Thanks for your answers at all! Even if I don't like some of them...
So let's just start replying:
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Originally Posted by smmath
I think that she needs to try and be more understanding. I think that she could be feeling overwhelmed with all that you are telling her. I am not at all saying that it is your fault, but maybe you talk to more people about what you are feeling, then she will feel less overwhelmed. Can you tell her some things about your mood, and tell a therapist or adult about some of the more serious issues like suicidal ideation?
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Well, I can't just tell her anything about my mood except of telling her that I don't feel good cause I miss her. And it's not a really good idea of talking to anybody else. I just started hating my T so much, I stopped the therapy. Couldn't take the pressure of talking about it anymore. My parents seem not to care about what happened. They forgot that I tried to kill myself (!) so unbelievably fast (or treated my like they do), that I sometimes forget they even knew. Talking to them would just start new problems. I guess there is nobody to talk cause I just can't talk about it.
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Originally Posted by kaliope
hi torbleh
sounds like you are getting mixed messages and that this relationship is filled with conflict over your depression. she is not accepting of it, nor is she likely to be. youre going to have to accept that. it going to be a deciding factor in this relationship. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome.  |
But how? Should I just forget that she doesn't care about my feelings? It's just not the problem that she can't help me with that, nor is it that she can't handle it; I knew that before! But I kinda curious if she even loves me when not caring about me.
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Originally Posted by wassupiig
I understand you so well. I'm also a guy who needs a lot of attention and just not getting a text reply from a person I care about would just get me angry and upset. I think everyone has so much they can handle. Maybe your girl needs time to adjust and understand what's going on because it might be difficult sometimes, but hey, now you found about this forum so any time you need to talk you can come here and that way everything wont fall on your girlfriend. And it is not you fault, we all need a way to let all our feelings out and everyone here is very supportive and willing to listen. I myself have started to leave people alone and log in to this site and it makes me feel better. My best wishes to you and your relationship.
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Thanks for the nice words! I'll try to tell you guys instead of annoying my gf.
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Originally Posted by Yoda
Your girlfriend cannot take the place of a trained therapist. You need to talk to a T about how to deal with your depression. It is okay to tell your GF about your feelings but she cannot be expected to help you like a T would.
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I don't want her to take the place of a therapist. I don't want so called 'help' from one either, cause it's just the opposite of help. Just gets me more sad and kinda angry. I just want her to understand!
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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
What you describe in in general is fairly common, except for REPEATED references to "stealing her time". That is completely, completely out of line, and I suggest that you part ways with her and let her enjoy her precious time on her own.
I am really sorry you had to hear that. It is appallingly rude. I hope the next gf will be a little nicer and more polite, too.
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Well, I guess splitting up wouldn't get it better. She's the only person I want to be near to. Splitting up would just make so much more depressive I think. I don't know if I could keep myself away from jumping again down a bridge. And I guess a person won't make the same mistake again, so...
So... This was just what I got to say. I still don't know how to deal with it :/ But it's nice to hear that somebody is listening to me
Thank you for that!