I hate being a newbie! :-) I wanted to post a response to this yesterday, but I'm limited to 5 posts per day for the first few days. Guess I'd better use them wisely. :-)

But I saved the response I'd written, and here it is:

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Actually there was a big discussion about who was sitting where last week. That must be a common group therapy topic. :-) I've sat in the same place each time. I think it's just me being a creature of habit though. Doesn't so much matter who sits next to me. There's an older guy who always sits in the big chair. He was late to the session and noted when he walked in that no one had taken his chair and were we afraid to take it. :-) I thought that was funny. I prefer the couch so his chair was safe from me.

I like the cat analogy! I'm sure that's me too. Always missing the point.

I remember someone saying something that was really direct (they were using a reference from an interaction with their partner). I remember being shocked by how direct they were, and then the therapist asked me if I wanted into the conversation. I said I was just thinking about how surprisingly direct that statement is (something I rarely am). And he said "so you're admiring him?" And then I realized that might be the way I felt. Or at least close to it. I wouldn't have noticed though.

Interesting.

Thanks for your posts! It's good to talk about this stuff. :-)

Sidony