Quote:
Originally Posted by catsrhelm
My husband and I recently had an arguement. I really called him on the carpet because of some recent abusive behavior. I let him know that he was being abusive and it was not appreciated. However, I still suspect something triggered the abusive behavior, some issue perhaps.
My question is, how do I get my husband to open up to me first? In the past when he had problems, he'd go to a female friend first, and then tell me all about it. I'd like to know what they are doing that I am not.
|
Well, not sure if this fits to your husband, but I stopped talking to my GF about my feelings because she doesn't really care about how I feel. Maybe you once said something which could give that feeling.
There could be so much reasons why he isn't opening to you. Here you get some:
1.
Maybe your husband thinks it might annoy you if he's talking to much about his problems. Not very likely, but possible.
2.
Might be, that your husband just wants to be the perfect guy to you. I think men with problems aren't that attractive. I guess that would be a lot more likely if your realationship just started very recently, but it is still possible.
3.
Which is the most likely is, that he just got problems to talk to somebody like his wife about problems. He could be thinking that you might judge him for what he thinks like. This is the reason why I can't talk to my friends about my problems. I just think something might change and they'll stop to like me. Maybe he just doesn't want you to know cause he's afraid of that.
I'm pretty sure there are so much more reasons why he isn't opening. Just told you how I react when I got problems. But what do I know? I'm just pretty young.
I wish you the best!