Sorry I left out details. When I say meet irl asap, I'm taking into account you are going to use precautions - meet in public, people should know where you are, avoid alcohol the first time. Don't go to their house or have them to yours until you know each other we'll, enough. I know its not always easy. I live near a city so there is not the issue of travel that people in more rural areas face. But otherwise, meeting IRL is safe if you are smart/careful about it. There are always risks involved when meeting new people,e so you should never be too trusting. I've done it many times and had been very careful. Others havent I know, but I dont think we should avoid meeting offline out of fear, we just ha e to be hyper aware of your surroundings.

I find it is very easy to misrepresent yourself in email, so getting too intimate that way can create its own set of problems. Ive used dating sites as a tool for real world experiences. it doesn't interest me to carry on for too long (by that I mean more than a week or two) online.