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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
My T encourages me to ask constantly if I'm not sure or if I hear something that sounds critical to me. The only real rupture we have had was because she was trying to get me to talk about some critical inner beliefs I had sent to her, and as she was reciting them and trying to coax me out of the silence I was giving her, I was interpreting what she was saying as her saying these things were true of me. Even though her words said the exact opposite, something in my mind was saying she saw all those bad things in me and was secretly accusing me of them. Needless to say, I was miserable for the next week because I couldn't bring myself to tell her what I had been thinking and feeling. So now I try to tell her exactly what I'm experiencing internally when we talk about certain subjects (although often she has to stop and ask first because it's hard for me to volunteer that information).
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I always worry about bringing up something that sounds critical to me because I feel like my T might get annoyed with me for "selective hearing" (she has never done that before, but others have) or feel like I'm criticizing the way she's saying things (this one has happened before, but it was during a session where we were both super frustrated). Your T sounds awesome, HazelGirl.