It's a hard adjustment to make, but I think it's important to understand they are still helping you any way they can. They're sending you to a private school. They're paying for your medication. I don't think they are unnecessarily putting stress on you by telling you "we can't afford that right now". Imagine how much stress they must be under?

They want to provide you with the best they can, and I think right now what you think is "the best they can" is more superficial things. If they are still putting food on the table, what does it matter that they don't spend $250 at one time at the grocery store? Or that they're not buying "junk food"? Those are luxuries to some people and not necessary.

As for the job, it is entirely reasonable for them to expect you to pay for some things that you want. It's not that they're being mean to you, they're trying to teach you the value of a dollar and teaching you to grow up. I had a job when I was a teenager and at the time I didn't need one, but I still worked. Personally, I was excited to have my own money. They are trying to teach you to be responsible. If you really want things in life, you have to earn them. So if you want more things, then instead of just 2 applications and waiting to hear back from them, apply everywhere you can and send out more than just 2 applications.

I just think that they're doing the best they can and it's probably not easy for them either. Think about how they must feel---they could provide you with anything you wanted before and now they can't. So take it easy with them. They still have the money to send you to private school and pay for your meds. And as a side note, I take generic ADHD meds..and they work just fine..If you didn't know, most insurances don't pay for brand name if there is a generic available, and it is very expensive for brand names, and if they do pay for a part of it--it's just that--a part of the cost and the majority of the cost falls on the consumer. If your ADHD meds are not working as well, talk to your doctor instead. Maybe there needs to be an adjustment.

I can understand feeling stressed about this, and I'm sorry it is such as adjustment for you, but I don't think they're placing unnecessary stress on you. They're just telling you they can't afford the lifestyle you used to have.