For those of you who are familiar with me and my situation, here is an update:
I filed a restraining order against my now ex, and filed for full physical/legal custody as well. He was discharged from the psych ward into a 90 day treatment program after 13 days of involuntary hospitalization.
I want absolutely nothing to do with him. Turns out he's a liar of the worst kind, in addition to being a domestic abuser. He was never in the foster care system like he said. He's a con artist.
The horrid woman from Child Protective Services who came into my home because of my ex has finally backed off and won't be opening an investigation against me. She dragged her feet and scared the **** out of me and my family because she took a disliking to me. Glad that's finally over after jumping through hoops to meet her demands when there wasn't even a case open against me. It does hardly seem fair that they came and harassed us, and no one from their agency ever spoke to him even though it was his falt for having sicko thoughts, and for making alligations against me that were proven untrue out of spite.

I'm going to find out today from my therapist about what the DBT team at the county mental health phasility feels in regards to allowing me into the program. and then I'll update in this thread how that conversation went.
How is everyone else doing? I've missed you guys, but have been extremely busy.