Hi. I'm new here and want to share my story with you.
I've been married for 18 years and my husband has been abusing me since day one. You may think I'm an idiot, and you are probably right, but his abuse was never physical - well, except this once, many years ago.
However he's being verbally and emotionally abusive. It's more subtle end elusive, harder to realize or accept. It's not like you see the scars and bruises in the mirror...
In psychotherapy I finally realized that my husband most probably suffers from severe inferiority complex. Diminishing me is the only way he can cope with his low self-esteem. For years I tried to be understanding as I knew he has always been rejected by his parents - his sister is the lady and he's the tramp in his father's eyes. I wanted to help and support him but no more. He's like a vampire. He feeds of me to fill in the gaps his family has created in his soul. I can't take it anymore. And honestly I don't want to. However, I can't leave him right now because I am not financially independent at the moment - we have this fiinancial crisis in Greece as you have probably heard and I'm between jobs.
Thanks for listening to me. If anyone has any ideas how I could face him, make him stop, gain some time, please advise!