Again it boils down to your dad's control. If that doesn't change, nothing will. Someone has to step up and tell him he's out of control and take over and not be afraid to do it. As long as he doesn't put his hands on anyone it doesn't matter how he feels. He never cared about what he said. You could even take your mom and have her stay with you for a while. A girl's visit and see if her absence motivates him.