My bf confuses me. He showers me with affection, tells me he loves me, says he wants to marry me, gives me attention & his time around the clock but oddly never does anything for me unless it benefits him. He accuses me of being with other men when I'm grocery shopping for us, gets annoyed if I want to talk to my gfs on the phone, read, sew or do anything that doesn't involve him. When I'm talking on the phone, even when I'm talking to my mother, he will interrupt me with his loud talking or give me big wet & loud kisses. It's annoying because he's like a kid who wants attention. He sees me everyday! We live together & I have a dog. If I ask him to walk my dog for me he will say no because it is my dog & responsibility yet I have taken on his responsibilities because that what a partnership is to me. He's mean to my dog & will keep her in the hot hall when I'm at work. I've even caught him pushing her out the door with his foot! When I asked him wtf was happening, he just walked by me & ignored me but then is loveable again 2 hrs later.

My son & I do everything in the house. He barely takes out the trash. The only time he will help with the trash is when he sees another man on street offer to help me drag the can to the curb! He only spends $ on himself. Once he was supposed to watch my son while I took my mom to dinner for her bday. He told me 2 hours before the reservation that he had to work & to take my son with me.

He moved in with me in Sept. We've been together for almost 4 years. He's a truck driver and wants to talk to me on the phone throughout the day. I work in an office and cannot sit on the phone all day. There have been times when I have had to hang up with him when he worked the evenings so that my 9 yr old son could call his father & he was annoyed, had a tantrum & told me that if I won't pay attention to him, he will find a woman who will put him first! Of course that upset me & I rushed my son off the phone with his father to call him back because I love him but I don't understand the threats.

He always tells me that he can find a younger & prettier partner if I don't treat him right. I'm 35 & I know I'm very beautiful but I don't let it go to my head because beauty is only skin deep. Is he intimidated by my looks? I don't give him any reason that I'm looking for another bf. I have both male & female friends but he has refused to meet mine & hasn't introduced me to his either.

He drives my car to work & when I need to use it, he will always moan about me replacing the gas. He got tickets on my car & didn't tell me about it until I received notices in the mail about my license being suspended. But the tkts he received while in his work truck, he addressed!

I don't know what to think anymore. He says that he loves me but his words don't meet his actions. He's very selfish & angry. He will sometimes lash out at me for no reason when everything is fine. I will sometime argue back but most of the times I overlook & give him way because I don't want my son to see us fight because he accuses me of being a drama queen when I do.

I need some advice. I think I'm going to ask him to leave soon but my heart wants him to stay. Why? He doesn't respect me or the people I love. I think he's jealous of my son too!