Hello, I am writing to vent and get opinions.

My brother is 23, I am 30. He's in jail. Our dad is in hospice. Mom is schizophrenic. Aunt and uncle think that when he gets out, it is my responsibility to make sure my brother takes his meds, pays his rent, attend his therapy meetings. I do not agree. Meanwhile I am helping my dad out with his own rent, and making all the phone calls about his future death to friends and family.

I have problems with self-esteem. How do I draw the lines with boundaries? My uncle keeps calling several times a day with updates on my brother and just answering them and listening to his one-sided rant contributes to my stress.

Thanks