Petunia, I have a good friend from high school who became a psychiatric social worker for a State and she got breast cancer a few years ago (we're in our mid-50s) and that really opened my eyes to things my T might be going through, etc. It was odd knowing a therapist as a good friend and discussing her problems and her own going to a therapist about them, etc. and thinking about my therapist and self together.

I bet your responses are indeed about/stemming from your friend and some of your T's responses might be from her problems, etc. Good luck to the two of you working on the repair work. I really like your attitude and work you're doing on this. Thanks for sharing.