Thanks so much for the excellent advise and suggested reading. I agree skipping a weekend and calling at random will help break the routine and assert my independence. But it's going to be hard. At the moment I always prearrange a time I will call. That avoids the panic text asking if I'm o.k.. But I have to try to ignore it, as you advise. I have to admit that I'm scared of them. Can't explain why, it's illogical, there is nothing the can do to me. But old habits die hard.