What a tough situation! I suspect in this country (U.S.A.), now that homosexuality is getting more accepted, that you would not have this struggle as much.

Would your husband possibly be open to some suggestions from you about what might satisfy you physically, maybe in the context of having fun experimenting? Some men are willing to try new things.

I think your husband's relatives are a problem, but I am thinking that that might be more accepted in your country, too.

I agree that you are commended for sticking with your husband, but I know it's really hard under the circumstances.

You might want to write about this topic in the Sexual and Gender Issues forum. Here is the link: http://forums.psychcentral.com/sexual-gender-issues/.