It sounds like you sought therapy for one thing, dealing with your health condition, and you're met with this guy who not only failed to help, but castigated your total personhood when you're already feeling vulnerable. I gather you didn't go to therapy to have your entire personality sternly reproached.

I personally didn't find it helpful when a therapist pre-empted me with his own absolutist interpretations and narrative, nor do I think therapy to grants a doctor immunity from human discourtesy. I've seen therapists with extremely fragile egos. My therapist felt extraordinarily threatened when I took things in hand and did my own research. Unfortunately threatened therapists sometimes use their authority, interpretation and pathologizing as demeaning weapons when they're angry.

In my opinion every human has traits and styles. If we're doing OK we don't necessarily need to deconstruct and fix everything. I don't see therapy as a required penance for having human imperfections.

Sorry you had to suffer this on top of an illness. I'm glad time is healing and I'm glad you found some answers for yourself. I have a mild, but chronic health condition and have a whole "relationship" with it.

If this guy adds to your problems rather than solutions he's a liability. From what you depict, he's combative, tactless and perhaps has his own traits needing repair.

Wishing you comfort and serenity.