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Originally Posted by Irenka
Could it be because she's one of the first people to appreciate you and care for you as a lesbian? You've only recently accepted that you're gay and have been discussing about coming out, so my guess is - no one else in your life right now knows you're gay, which means they do not know a very important and deep part of who you are. Your T is perhaps the first person to know this very intimate secret, AND APPRECIATE IT. Your T did not freak out, did not reject you. She accepted you for who you are, which no one else has done for you just yet because well, no one else knows you're gay.
All this could very likely be why you feel so attracted to your T.
Personally, I'd say, try and keep your feelings under control while it's still manageable, and do not act upon it even if your T does give you hints. If it becomes obvious to you that she is attracted to you romantically, then perhaps it would be time to consider if you may need a new T.
I wonder if talking about your feelings for your T with her might be helpful, and perhaps you could discuss your boundaries. Other members on the forum can tell me if this would be good advice, as I'm not sure.
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Thank you very much for your well-thought reply - it means so much!
I think a component of this is very true - though some people did know, it wasn't to the depth I described to her. I hadn't been able to describe any deeper into my feelings of my own sexuality, and to be able to fully appreciate and accept this part of me - until I worked with her to open these doors.
Possibly what made these feelings stronger were her compliments - it isn't really part of the context of my therapy, it was more in the sense of, "There is no possibility of you being single forever - because you are such a beautiful woman" (Though I don't fully agree - beauty is only in the eye of the beholder! - Being beautiful in your persona is most important!)
It's just so strange hearing that from someone you are attracted to (and even if I had an attraction to someone in a casual setting that knew I liked them - it would be a bit odd!
But, perhaps that is just me and my feelings towards it!