Sounds like things are moving a little fast here. I understand you want to get away from your soon to be ex but moving with your 3 children into a new life with a man you've been dating for how long? Did he ask you to move in with him? I don't think I heard that from you. He said he doesn't want you to move for him. That sounds rather non-committal. Maybe he'd like you to be closer but not actually live together just yet. If you were my friend, I'd suggest taking things much slower with him. Date and have fun. Relationships are difficult as it is, one-on-one, never mind adding an immediate family of 3 children to the mix. That is a major upheaval for you to move with your children. How do they feel about moving? Changing schools, friends, etc. It's a lot to consider. Is your man willing to take on the financial burden for all of you? How is his relationship with your children? I'm sure you've given it great thought.

I don't know what to say about the other woman. Are things really over for them? Do you mind sharing your man? You say you are not exclusive so he is free to see other women right? There is nothing to be mad at then is there? Are you planning for the four of you to live together as a family? Does your man know this? Is he ready to take all of you on? There would be too many questions there for me to make a major change such as moving my entire family to be with him. I think a lot of men like their freedom and some like to have more than one woman. I would take it slow and not push it. JMO.