Lose this guy quick. He is all talk. Some people are like that you know. They say whatever it takes to keep you but do not back it up with their actions because the talk is all a lie. They say all the right buzz words "I love you so much" "You are my world", blah, blah, blah, just to keep you holding on. Some people use this technique all their lives because it works. They get all that they want without having to "do" anything or "give up" anything for it. This is the most selfish kind of person and you don't need him. Don't waste any more of your life. Get out while you are still young and beautiful. You deserve better. JMO

PS: I see you asked if it is love, using or control. He is using and controlling. Sorry that's how it sounds to me.