Thanks people.

This sums it up for me. Its my grief and anxiety of the diagnosis which should have taken the focus of therapy not the relationship itself I actually feel pretty angry about it. I don't think focusing on old childhood wounds was helpful while I was struggling to deal with the present as this just increased the stress I was under.

I will go to my next appointment as I don't like to lose money and I will have one more go to get this across to him as unfortunately there is not a therapist on every corner. If he doesn't see the light it will be my last session.