Become special to yourself. It is NOT because of who you are with that makes you special. Granted, becoming real does take some doing, some believing, and some time ... but the determination to see yourself as the wonderful being you are will attract someone who will be dazzled by you.

Treat yourself with kindness. Become real. I just finished reading The Velveteen Principles for Women: How to Shatter the Myth of Perfection and Embrace All That You Really Are by Toni Raiten-D'Antonio I'm positive reading this book will provide extra ordinary insight.