hi leslie
it sounds like more than bipolar disorder is going on here. it sounds as if you are in an abusive relationship as well. those symptoms are not caused by bipolar. he needs anger management treatment as well. if he is in denial nothing you suggest is going to get him help. counseling for yourself, to determine how long you are willing to put up with his abuse would be helpful. you need to set boundaries with him and let him know you will not be treated that way. welcome to psych central. you will find that we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome.