I don't have an awesome relationship with my mother. I can't just go up to her and start talking about everything going on in my life. I feel she judges me for not having finished college even though I'm about done with my EMT course. I'm 23 years old and finally moved out of my parents house last year. My mother is a control freak and wants to dictate every move I make. She called me a little snot the other day in front of my grandparents because I didn't respond to her "heeeyy giirl" like a little preppy... She asks me why my self-esteem is so low and I don't know what to say to her. She thinks I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend just because I want one. I love him, she hates him. He has done nothing to her, and she said, "he's a smart-*** and I don't like it." So what??? Get over it, he just likes to joke. She makes me feel worthless, and thinks that I'm jealous of my younger sister who is about to graduate college and has a boyfriend my mother approves of. She brags on them a lot in front of me and she says she knows I don't like it. She also treats my dad like crap too. Both my boyfriend and my roommate have been to my parents' house and both can feel the tension in the air and I could cut it with a knife it's so thick. I'm tired, I just wish my mother understood me and would quit judging and quit being a narcissist. I want a better relationship with her but a relationship is a two way street isn't it?