hi!

I've been facing the same difficulties, but on the other side! I recently told my boyfriend i was raped a few years ago (with a few details that i might have avoided..) to which he reacted very brutally. He told me while discussing later on that he was unable to look at me the same way, and that he started having problems feeling sexual desire for me (or anyone) after i had told him about it. I am perfectly capable of having sex (and overcame my problems before him, but mostly with him - by just trusting him), and we had ammmazing sexes before i had told him... He's the first partner i shared this with, and really regret it now, but i still want to make things better. While we still have had sex afterwards, it's obvious something was broken. I don't understand his reaction and don't know what to do to make things better.
I have made HIV tests and other tests and we're both clean. The problem we're facing right now rather concerns the fact that he doesn't feel sexual at all since we talked about it and doesn't feel desire towards me since then... i feel like i broke him! He refuses to talk about it and told me there was nothing i could do...
how can i help him? what would you have wanted your girlfriend to do to make things better?