[QUOTE=Rivrboat;3574277]I understand you want to get away from your soon to be ex but moving with your 3 children into a new life with a man you've been dating for how long? Did he ask you to move in with him?

We've been seeing each other for almost 2 years. He didn't ask me to move with him. I have my own place that he helped get ready for my kids. It has been in the back of my mind to live together. But he likes alot of space and I don't like being alone.
I am concerned that he has always said that about being a father figure. But isn't that their father's job? I don't expect him to take that role on financially or emotionally. We have now voiced we are committed. All our friends and family see us as a couple. This became more apparent when he was okay with changing our fb status to in a relationship with.... I had wanted him to do this and he finally has. But I have set it to where my status is public. His is not public and set for friends to see. This bothered me a little. Does that at all say something?
He is fantastic with my kids. They had a tough time transitioning though. My son has been acting out a little. This is a concern. We are trying to iron out the details. The visitation and all that. My husband isn't happy right now. I'm not sure what he's going to do. Our eldest stayed behind with their dad.

As far as the other woman, when I found out who she was, I asked him to delete her off his page. He did it right before we changed our relationship statuses. Then I noticed him leaving a lot to go to the bathroom with his phone. So I checked again. It was her, very angry that he'd do anything like that. Didn't their friendship mean anything? What got me was that he told her he didn't want to do it. He enjoyed seeing her page and would add her back. But if he did, he would have to go through explaining to me why he added her back. Saying he didn't want to go through the hassle. I didn't think I was that much of a burden. When I read that, I knew he was choosing me over her. But when I saw a text he sent her while he was drunk that was sexually explicit, I doubted whether they were really finished. But is that sharing him if they live so far away? I always thought out of sight,out of mind. What harm is she or any other if they live so far? Am I being paranoid? It would hurt too badly if I knew he cared more for her than me. I'd rather know the truth though. Maybe that's what I get for snooping.
I thought things would be different. I thought I was doing the right thing for me and my kids. I don't doubt I sound unstable. I'm trying to get my life back on track.
My fear is that this relationship will blow up in my face and I would've moved for nothing.
I appreciate your input.