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Hoppery · 07:10 AM

I wrote this to be shared with whoever is willing to read it.

WRITTEN BY AN ASPIE: Hoppery (Acey)

Learning social skills is almost the same as pretending to be normal. Why can't the world accept our flaws? Why must we change to keep the world happy? How do you expect us to accept ourselves and our diagnoses, when the world can't even accept us as we are. An autistic individual.

Learning social skills is helpful, yes. But you need to understand that it doesn't fix our brains! No matter how well trained we are, we will still always be autistic. Instead of focusing on trying to fix us, focus on fixing and educating the world about autism. While you might think that there is more awareness these days (and indeed there is), the world is still mostly an unfriendly place for us to live.

While I am no expert on how the world see's autism I do know from experience that some (not all) seem to think because those with high functioning autism/aspergers can pass as fairly normal, that we are all just rude, naughty, ill mannered individuals. This is not the case though. High functioning autism/ aspergers is an invisible disability. You cannot tell we have it at the first glance you take of us.

It isn't an excuse to misbehave or get away with things. Infact, all we want from you all, is acceptance and an open mind to get to truly know our disability before judging us. We expect no more from you then that.

What are you going to lose from giving us that? Time, effort?
That's nothing compared to what we go through each day! We have to take the TIME to learn things to appear more acceptable and we have to take the EFFORT to put them into action. This isn't once a day, or once a week. This is every second, of every single day. All year. No breaks and no holidays.

What those with High functioning autism/aspergers need is different for us all as we are all unique and while we share the same disability, it effects us in different ways. But the acceptance and willingness to learn about our disabilities remains the same, always. So can you do that? Can you take a step into our world and see it how we see it or at least try to?

We can learn your ways and your rules. But without Acceptance, Educating Yourself, Helping Us, Love, Patience and Kindness. You can't make a positive difference to our lives, just like we can't make a positive difference to yours. We don't expect this from you at all, but it sure as hell would be great if you gave it!