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Originally Posted by beauflow
It's a lonely feeling.
Accepting two things has helped me, but maybe not everyone
1. Others may never really truly understand but yet how would or could they? They are not me, haven't been what I've been through. Some may relate but truly understand maybe not. Accepting that is Ok
2. Understanding myself more and understanding some things I don't understand fully (my sister and I had similar abuse but we feel different ) and saying that's Ok (go back to 1, we are our own individuals).
It may feel lonely but others may feel lonely on some of their own issues.
Being my own friend sometimes does wonders too.
I've went through struggles of needing others to understand, its some what triggering for me too.. But I can not make another understand and perhaps they just are unable to truly understand due to they aren't me.... But that doesn't mean that they cease to care.. As you note in your post.
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Yes, I think there is a lot of wisdom in this. I think, realising these things can help keep us sane when we feel as though we're screaming on the inside and nobody knows why.
Just lately though, I have been longing for someone truly on my wavelength you know? Perhaps they do not have the precise same experience as myself (who could have?), but they are at a similar stage in their recovery...and they are on my wavelength. Sometimes you just need that.