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Originally Posted by hvert
I would *definitely* talk to your father's doctor. There are a lot of conditions that could be causing your father's apathy. The doctor would hopefully know how to phrase things. He's not going to say 'Oh, your daughter told me that you don't fix the house up.'
I don't think that you need to confront your father or that it will actually have much effect if you do. I would only insert myself in that situation if my mother asked me specifically to help convince my father to let her get a job or move or fix the light in the kitchen. I guess I am just thinking of personal experiences where these kinds of interventions have backfired.
In one situation like that, we did organize a work day, where the whole family gathered to fix up the place. The husband tolerated it and seemed pleased by the results. I hope you have good results also if you do something similar.
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Thanks for sharing your experiences with this, and your advice.
I can see it backfiring, anything I do really has that potential to. But, I feel like if I don't insert myself, nothing will change. My mom won't speak up, and my dad will continue to think everything is "fine". Their situation will continue to worsen, and my siblings and I will continue to feel bad.
I will try talking to my mom first to get more information. She would know more of what's been going on with him, and would also have his doctor's information.