I can somewhat understand what you mean. You assumed role of father in your house and feel like you are still the father figure to your siblings. I can see where they might have conflict with this especially as they are getting older. When I was a teen, I use to go to the bars with my parents on the weekends. When I was old enough to drive I was their designated driver on the weekends. I also worked part-time to pay for high school fees and extra stuff. To me I was the parent of the house. Maybe not so much that I was the parent, I just never had traditional parent models in the house. The end result: I don't respect them as parents really, especially now that I am one. They are more like friends. We are close and have a good realtionship, just not that of parent-child. If you are unhappy with the way you handle family matters, then try to be aware next time "father" mode takes over. If these siblings are grown and make their own decisions, you have to let them find out on their own. Maybe it will make you happier to loosen the grip of the father role.