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Originally Posted by nycgal448
I speak from personal experience. I have Bpd too. I, at times get that way
w my frenz .. but mainly my bf whoever? My friends support me. They take
into consideration my illness, but they let me know. Hey , ur being moody.
They never just give up on me and walk away. I know ppl w this illness
need help, but if ur truly a friend, maybe walk away for a few days, then
maybe see how they r, if u really were concerned.. Bpd is not an excuse, but
true friends never cease.
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To me, there are limits even for true friends. When her behavior is impacting my emotional health and she's refusing to get help for it, I need to recognize my own boundaries and put my own health first. I can't be in a relationship with someone who turns on a dime like that, who one day is attacking me verbally and the next day is physically clinging to me and will not respect my physical or emotional boundaries. (Like constantly touching my hair or giving me kisses, which I've told her many times I'm not comfortable with, or insisting that we're going to get married someday and refusing to drop the subject, or asking me for $400 and berating me when I refuse to give it to her after she went out for a $150 with her boyfriend the night before.) I have limits.