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Old Feb 10, 2014, 11:52 PM
boredporcupine boredporcupine is offline
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I have had attachment and maternal transference (of varying kinds) with both of my T's, and this followed directly on having similar types of feelings about a whole string of females in my life, going right back to at least first grade. A positive outcome of therapy has been that as I've worked through some of that stuff, I've seen myself having much easier relationships with certain female mentor figure types.

I consider that my relationship with my dad has been less problematic overall (although it definitely had its issues) and correspondingly I've never had quite the same issues with older men in my life as I have had with women (although I have had some transference in relationships with male romantic partners).

On the whole I think if you engage in psychodynamic kinds of therapy you are likely to discover some transference, but if your relationships with your parents are not too problematic, the transference might not be so dramatic. For example, finding yourself wanting to impress your T really isn't on the same level of intensity as expecting your therapist to physically assault you. Similarly, if your unmet need is "I was never shown the slightest bit of love at all" it's going to come through at a different level of emotion than if it's "this one particular part of my personality was never quite appreciated."
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