I don't consider my childhood needs unmet, but they weren't idyllic (whose is?). I had food, a home, education. It isn't the physical aspect of my childhood but more the emotional needs I don't feel I received - particularly from my mother. My family (and mother especially) are exceptionally talented at insults regarding weight and making one feel unwanted or "unloved".

I guess the maternal transference I feel for my T is because she's warm and kind to me, and she listens. She's given me advice about school, exams and other things. She understands my anorexia and depression and she's capable of helping me through my recovery without judgement; the exact opposite of my mother. I guess what I really want from T is her to cuddle me and kiss me on the forehead ... affection. My mother was never good at showing me that.