I wonder this too...I've told my T that maybe my upbringing could've been better but I'm having a hard time pinpointing what happened. I have memory issues. I know of some of what happened to me, but can't remember the context. My T seems to believe my needs we're not met in childhood and I have a hard time being with my needs. That I didn't feel cared about or important. It makes my stomach hurt just typing this up /:

I want to believe my problems stem from something outside of me, but most of me feels I'm just messed up because of who I am. And also, that everyone has this pain in some way but I magnify it and make it a big deal. I don't know if I'm making sense or not, but this is how my mind works.