Alison,
Thank you so much for your nice words. I really do appreciate all the support I get here........... (I wish I could repay everyone for my endless 'needs').

and as a follow up - there are nine people in my group DBT therapy - four of us didn't really understand what we were supposed to do. So, I guess it was not just me who was a moron................ (but I do the moron thing better than most).