Here's something amazing I found about that whole false self concept:
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Winnicott also says that:
"(a) particular danger arises out of the not infrequent tie-up between the intellectual approach and the False Self… The world may observe academic success of a high degree, and may find it hard to believe in the very real distress of the individual concerned, who feels 'phoney' the more he or she is successful. When such individuals destroy themselves in one way or another, instead of fulfilling promise, this invariably produces a sense of shock in those who have developed high hopes of the individual." (1960, p. 144).
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Modern Psychoanalysis: The False Self
That thing about producing shock because the individual doesn't live up to the high hopes of others is what I'm going through right now. Everyone is stunned that I would be suicidal, that I'm not a successful engineer, that I'm destroying myself! They don't see how it could be possible since I was such a "knight in shining armor". Hell, my wife keeps wanting the old Webgoji back.
There was no old Webgoji! Just a facade I created years ago to deal with reality!