Fake it till you make it, hasn't ever worked for me either. I have met people who are "faking it" and it shows. I myself tried it and all that it did was make me tired and irritable lol. That part, I wasn't faking Sometimes for me the things people offer are well meant (?) maybe....but platitudes usually come up in awkward silences for most folks who are at a loss for something kind and or helpful to say. Sometimes, silence is best, but we're human.