Shezbut,
I strongly agree about religion. I used to attend 12-step groups and it made me really uncomfortable to be pressured to say the lord's prayer and to "admit my powerlessness and give myself over to God", because I am an agnostic. That's why I eventually quit the program.

It would be much better if any self-organized group for BPD had no position and religion and was focused on human support for the disorder, rather than divine intervention