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Originally Posted by Webgoji
It sounds like his "Love Language" is completely different from yours.
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He maybe doesn't work in verbal affirmations. Maybe you two could come together and figure out how each of you communicate and then both work on giving each other the communication you need?
As for everyone thinking you can't handle things, that's a bit more tricky. Again, I think it starts with communication. When they say something that "wasn't meant that way" repeat back to them how you're hearing it. Something like, "What I'm hearing you say is that I'm just a child that can't deal with this situation." It will help them clarify what they are saying and reinforce on them how they should structure their conversations. |
We had an appointment later in the day, after I made the OP. The expert mentioned love languages too, and I said it was the second time in 24 hours, so there must be something to it. So we investigated and compared notes. Turns out "words of affirmation" is my strongest language, but his weakest. No wonder we have conflicts there! He's big on "acts of service" which is my second strongest, so we both get doing things for each other. "Quality time" is my third and his second. His third is "gift giving" which barely registers with me, and neither one of us were high on "physical touch," which surprises me because we do hold hands a lot.