Yes she said that at the first session. Basically the conversation was like this:

-Do you have any cuts on you now from self harming yourself, I said yes from a few days ago (they weren't even bad cuts) she said well I might have to tell your mother about that. I said no, don't do that, I am not suicidal. She eventually agreed not to but I just find it inappropriate to threaten to tell my mother since I am an adult.

and you are right, now I do not feel comfortable telling her things, I do not trust her and it is really leading to ineffective therapy.

She also dismissed that I may have BPD/Bipolar within the first hour (i know i am not bipolar but think I may have BPD) and that irritates me too because then I am receiving the help I need.

I see her today and I really don't think one hour is going to be enough for all I have to say to her. I just hope I can hold it together and not get too angry or irritated with her. If tonight doesn't go well I will start looking for someone new.

thanks everyone!