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Originally Posted by gon3withth3wend
Well I texted him earlier just to say hi because I couldn't handle it! He texted back twice since I responded. Said he had been crazy busy with work but seemed excited to talk to me, as normal. I'm pretty sure that the only way he'd get bored with me is if he met someone else, and that's a fear of mine.. I don't want to be in a real relationship with him but I don't want him to be with anyone else. I guess I can't just imagine a guy being okay with giving up good sex for no sex.
I wouldn't ever want to marry a guy I hadn't slept with. As a female, I have the same right as a guy does to seek pleasure. Double standards are horrible! We started talking daily after we started having sex, and that would be unnecessary if he were just going to get rid of me... But knowing him I think he might do it just to hurt my feelings.
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Glad you heard from him. Being busy at work, doesn't translate to seeking out others, which is a positive. Though I can read you stressing, sounds like you give space? Am I correct?
You'd be surprised that not all men, seek out others, back to back to back, so to speak. Sometimes, no sex, can mean, just not getting sex from someone who's going to be well, a pain. If that makes sense?
I like the advise, on being mysterious. Good, sound advice. Perhaps, your friend doesn't want to be any more clingy, as do you?
I'm of the same opinion, as you, about wanting pre-marital sex, before marrying, not for the sake of testing out the merchandise, so to speak, but because, that's another aspect of relationships, that sometimes, can wreak havoc in a relationship, and it's nice to make sure, that you know a person from every aspect, before signing on the dotted line. Why should there be a double standard? Men don't want to end up with a frigid person, any more than a woman does. Because, it can work both ways, there.
Hope things go a bit smoother. A little mystery, with a bit of showing attention and interest, goes a long way.