Thanks, Alison.

I really am torn. My uncle is also special to me bc I see my Grandpa and. My Dad' s mannerisms. In
him and he resembles them. He also sees the world differently, talking. To him reminds me of my
dad. I wrote my uncle a letter explaining how I felt and he emailed me that he loved me and would
respond later. That was like 10 years ago. I didn't talk to him until last year when I lost my brother. I called him, told him my brother was killed, and I wanted him (my uncle) to know I loved him. He sent
me flowers. I think you are right that no one could comprehend a mother being so sadistic to her own
kids . Also, my uncle didn't want to deal with the care of his parents. I believe, he would have put them in a home and forgot about it. Somehow, I believe I'm supposed to find a way to reconcile with him. I love him. He is family. He hasn't done anything unforgivable. Also, many many many people
Looked the other way, failed to report, didn't want to see how cruel our mom was. It's unfair to put
that all on my uncle's shoulders. I don't believe he supported me at all emotionally when I was caring for his parents or after they died. I do believe him to be a selfish man that has never, "had my back."
Nonetheless, I love him and miss him. (It doesn't help that I have DID so not all of is.agree on this subject) anyhoo, thanks again for responding, and just the act of writing this on PC helps.